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Survivors who are Men

CARE provides confidential advocacy, support, and related referrals to students, staff, faculty, and alumni impacted by sexual assault, dating/domestic violence, and stalking. 

CARE understands that violence can happen to anyone regardless of their gender identity and/or expression, or the gender of the person responsible for the violence. CARE wants you to know that services are here for you to help assist you with whatever needs may arise.

Importance of Location

CARE has two locations: one in the Student Resource Building (SRB), inside the Women’s Center, and the other in the Gaucho Support Center in Isla Vista, near Embarcadero Hall. Although the location in the SRB is open to and welcoming of people of all genders as well as people who do not identify with any gender, CARE understands that its location within the Women’s Center might not feel the most supportive for those who do not identify as women. If this is the case for you, CARE wants you to feel comfortable and empowered to directly ask for your appointment to be at the Gaucho Support Center in Isla Vista to help ensure that your experience with CARE is as comfortable and affirming as it can be.

Barriers to Seeking Services

There are many myths in our society are that men cannot be victims of sexual violence or domestic/dating abuse. This misconception can contribute to increased emotional pain, guilt or shame surrounding men’s experiences of interpersonal violence, and leaves many men feeling very alone and not able to seek support. CARE wants all men who are survivors to know that you do not need to feel alone we are here to support you, and in whatever ways are best for you. 

Some men may feel confused after being sexually assaulted if they became sexually aroused, had an erection, experienced an orgasm, or ejaculated during the assault. A survivor may feel confused about whether it was rape, or whether those physiological reactions proved consent. But a person’s normal, involuntary, physiological reactions do not mean that they wanted to be raped or sexually assaulted or that they enjoyed this traumatic event. The sexual arousal of any survivor during an assault does not mean that consent was given.

Sexual Identity and Survivorship

Men who are assaulted by men, can develop confusion or questions about their own sexuality after their assault. CARE wants to remind survivors that your sexual assault has nothing to do with your sexual orientation-- past, present, or future. But if your assault has brought questions about your sexual identity, we are here to listen and assist you in this self-discovery as well. 

For gay/bi/queer/pansexual/trans men, sexual assault can lead to feelings of self-blame and self-loathing attached to their sexuality. Being sexually assaulted may lead a gay/bi/queer/pansexual/trans man to believe he somehow "deserved it," that he was "paying the price" for his sexual orientation. It's important to remember that sexual assault is an act of violence, power, and control. No one deserves to be sexually assaulted, ever.

Confidentiality

All faculty and staff, who are not confidential, are required to report all students’ disclosures of sexual violence, dating/domestic violence, and/or stalking to the Title IX office to ensure consistent student services and Title IX policy compliance. A CARE advocate can discuss any student’s concerns one-on-one, without sharing the student’s name, identifying information, or any other details about their visit with CARE to other campus offices – your professors, coaches, RA, or peers will not be notified that you have visited CARE, unless you explicitly request CARE’s assistance in working with them.

Making an Appointment with a CARE Advocate

To schedule a non-urgent appointment with a CARE Advocate, please follow this link to our appointment request form

To speak with a confidential advocate immediately, please call our 24/7 CARE advocacy line at (805) 893-4613. If you have an emergency or feel that you may be in immediate danger, please call 911. 

If you have experienced a sexual assault within the last five days, please visit the Medical information under the “How We Help - Advocacy” tab above or call CARE at 805-893-4613 to learn about the time-sensitive option to seek a free, confidential forensic medical exam.

CARE Recognizes...

CARE recognizes that each individual may hold many of the different identities that our Populations we CARE for pages address. For more information on another identity please click here to be brought back to the Populations we CARE for homepage.